30 Signs You've Found Your Soulmate

Soulmate

According to Merriam-Webster, a soulmate is 

: a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament

or

: a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs

Don't you just marvel at how sterile dictionary definitions can be? 

Because I have been so fortunate to find my soulmate, I believe there is so much more buried in the meaning. Finding your soulmate is world-changing and life-altering.

The connection with your soulmate goes beyond infatuation, lust, and love. They are a person with whom you have an instant bond the moment you meet, and that meeting creates a connection so strong you feel drawn to them in a way that is hard to put into words.

Are there soulmates?

There are so many differing opinions about the topic of soulmates. Some believe there is no such thing, while others believe you can encounter many soulmates throughout your lifetime. Living with my soulmate for over 4 decades gives me a distinct perspective. 

I believe in soulmates, and I don't believe in more than one in a lifetime. I believe you can fall in love more than once, and that you can be infatuated with many different people in your life, but you will have only one true soul connection.

You have an extremely deep connection and natural affinity with your soulmate. You feel at once excited, connected, happy, comfortable, drawn to, physically attracted to, and united with, all without effort, and sometimes beyond reason.

Your soulmate will make you believe in love, yourself, and them. They understand and connect with you on all levels and in deeper ways than anyone before or after. 

You feel a magnetic pull toward them that's hard to quantify, and though people fall in and out of love, your soulmate leaves a void unable to be filled by another. The sense of happiness, joy, passion, calm, and inspiration brought to you cannot be duplicated without them.

The connection to a soulmate comes once in a lifetime to make you stop, take notice of what life has to offer, and point you to a path of fulfillment you couldn't navigate or believe possible without them.

I believe in soulmates

Thinking that there is one magical person on the planet that you will find, fall in love with, and never have a bad moment, argument, or disappointment with is unrealistic. Soulmates are not about the absence of problems in our lives, but the acceptance of problems, knowing that the strength of your unity can overcome them.

I can testify that it's possible to find someone that you know passionately, connect with on the deepest level possible, and challenges you to become the best possible version of yourself.

Throw in incredible intimacy, physical attraction, ongoing romance, and trust then you have what I have with Barb. That is something moving and special. It is something I wish more people could experience.

I am blessed to have my best friend, true love, life partner, and lover all rolled up into one person called Barb. The fact that our relationship exists allows anyone that has known us to believe that soulmates are possible. It is a deeply spiritual relationship that lives eternally. 

Whether you believe in soulmates or not, most people yearn for deep romantic love. A strong connection that will help complete them and allow them to share life's journey. 

A soulmate provides that and more.

How will you know you found your soulmate?

While a physical attraction or lust draws someone to our attention, meeting your soulmate for the first time creates an unyielding connection that both feel and can't seem to escape. You can't seem to pull yourself away or forget about that first encounter because you feel like a missing puzzle piece has been found, like something that always should have been there.

In other words,

YOU JUST KNOW.

But if you still have doubts, or just want to validate the fact that you found your soulmate, here is a list of the signs that let you know your soulmate had arrived. The person you love may possess some of these traits. The more on the list you check off, the closer you move from a loved one to a soulmate.

30 Signs You've Found Your Soulmate

1. They put your needs before their needs

*They don't neglect their own, but they choose yours first

*They anticipate your needs and arrange resources to meet them

2. They believe in you

*Their faith in you sometimes exceeds your own

*They believe that there is no one better than you

3. They provide unconditional love

*They don't make you "earn" their love

*They see your imperfections as gems

4. They are always honest with you

*They tell you the truth even when it's painful to hear

*They believe no foundation based on lies can survive

5. They are your best friend

*They share the good and the bad news with you first

*They provide what you need, even if it's a shoulder or silence

6. They possess the same core values

*They may have different opinions in some areas, but you are both on the same page when it comes to what matters most

*They remain true to what's important to you both

7. They respect you

*They never talk down to you or belittle you

*They paint the best picture of you in front of others

8. They allow you to be yourself

*They aren't embarrassed by your quirks, they cherish them

*They believe the ordinary you is extraordinary

9. They stay in the fight

*They don't look for the door, let alone head for it when times are tough

*They believe you are worth every effort

10. They don't want to change you

*They believe you are better than the dream

*They love the whole you - body, soul, and spirit

11. They hurry home to you

*They enjoy time away with friends but can't wait to get back to you

*They treasure moments together and make you feel like they do

12. They are your biggest fan

*They replace your self-doubt with reassurances

*They brag about your accomplishments to others

13. They make you feel secure and trusting

*They never give you a reason to doubt their intentions are real

*They never threaten to leave when you disagree or argue

14. They desire you

*They make you feel wanted, every day and in every way

*They make you feel the "electricity" even on the bad days

15. They feel what you feel

*They empathize with you on a very deep level

*They are supportive when you are hurt

16. They feel like a missed connection

*They make you wish you'd met them earlier

*They seem connected and familiar from the very start

17. They accept your family

*They accept your kids (if you have them) as their own

*They embrace your family, peculiarities and all

18. They look at you like nobody else does

*They can be caught looking at you longingly as if they can't believe you are with them

*They look at you and not through you when you're together

Read: 18 Ways to Say I Love You...

19. They are not afraid to let you disagree

*They allow you the confidence to challenge them

*They know that differences lead to growth

Read: 20 Things Not to Say in an Argument

20. They make you feel like forever is not enough

*They make you feel that no matter how much time you have to love each other, it won't be enough

*They make you sure you would do it all over again given the chance

21. They fit into your life from day one

*They feel like they've been a part of your life forever

*They make you wonder where they were until you met

22. They feel like they are separate, but still one with you

*They pursue individual goals and let you do the same

*They make you trust that your union is strong

23. They make you better

*They accept you as you are, but make you want to be better

*They challenge you while still accepting all that you are right now

24. They bend but do not break

*They are flexible when needed on the unimportant things

*They refuse to give up on the things that matter most

25. They are better than the dream

*They exceed every vision of what your ideal person would be

*They help you believe in a grand dream of a future

26. They are faithful

*They don't run to another's arms even when you go through a rough patch

*They believe there is no substitute for the life you have together

27. They are the future you see

*They are in every vision you have of what life holds for tomorrow

*They make you believe in your lives together

28. They alter your reality

*They improve your life just by being part of it

*They take you in a new direction that's better than where you were headed

29. They shake your world

*They stir you up with just a smile, a look, or the touch of a hand

*They deliver intimacy that's deeper than just the physical

30. They display honorable intentions

*They never let you doubt they want what's best for you

*They show they value your relationship in everything they do

Soulmate Signs

There is no quiz to pass to be a soulmate. The biggest factor is the one highlighted before the 30 signs listed above: 

YOU JUST KNOW

Something deep inside of you lets you know that what you've been waiting for has arrived. It's as though every road life has taken you down has led you to this person on purpose.

Your significant other may not give you all the signs listed but your soulmate will check off most of the boxes. Barb displays all of them for me allowing our connection to be stronger at 40 years than it was at 4.

"Do you believe, as I do, that our souls spoke, long before our lips ever got a chance to?" 

-Sayed H. Fatimi

Final Thoughts About Soulmates

When we first begin a relationship there are always hopes that it can turn into something meaningful. Being in love is grand, but finding your soulmate is next level.

It is easy to try to move from being infatuated to a soulmate connection but there are distinct differences:

• Infatuation relies on possession; a soulmate is about partnership
• Infatuation relies on taking; a soulmate is about giving
• Infatuation relies on physical attraction; a soulmate is about a deep connection that thrives long after physical attributes fade
• Infatuation relies on what's wished for; a soulmate is about factual displays
• Infatuations relies on intense beginnings; a soulmate is forever
• Infatuation relies on lust; a soulmate is about trust

Barb is my soulmate. I don't doubt it for a second. When I look at our past, I still get tingles inside. When I try to envision a future without her, I see a void that cannot be filled.

Barb,

You amaze me every day. When I look into your eyes after 40 years, I still see that everything I ever wanted is right in front of me. When I look at the rest of my life, I see YOU. I thank God for you every day. And every kiss brings me to the point where heaven and earth are joined. You are my breath and passion. God wove our souls together in the beginning of time and I can't wait to share all my tomorrows with you.

The bottom line is you need to trust your gut. You will know you've found yours when the feeling goes far beyond physical attraction and shared interests, and you don't feel the need to justify the relationship, especially to yourself.

Now go live your best life,

Dan

"Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." 

-Genesis 2:18 NLT